Hi, I'm Sheila Trabelsi - a licensed counselor and the proud owner of Path to Growth Therapy located in Loveland, CO.
Meet Sheila
There’s a moment many of us have faced—whether stepping into a new leadership role, starting a business, or simply taking on a project that stretches us beyond our comfort zone. That moment where we think: What if I’m not actually qualified for this? What if they realize I have no idea what I’m doing?
This creeping self-doubt has a name: Imposter Syndrome. And if you’ve ever felt it, you’re not alone.
Imposter syndrome is the persistent belief that you’re not as competent as others perceive you to be, despite evidence of your success. First coined in the 1970s by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, imposter syndrome was initially observed in high-achieving women. However, research has since shown that anyone—regardless of gender, industry, or success level—can experience it.
Harvard Business Review reports that up to 82% of people experience imposter syndrome at some point in their careers. Even industry leaders, CEOs, and top creatives admit to feeling like they don’t truly deserve their success.
Most of us see imposter syndrome as a bad thing, a signal that we’re not good enough. But what if it’s actually a sign of growth?
I’ve felt imposter syndrome at multiple points in my life—especially when I was stepping into leadership roles that challenged me. And you know what? Each time, it meant that I was growing. If you feel like an imposter, it often means you’re pushing yourself into new, uncomfortable, but necessary territory.
Reframing imposter syndrome as a growth signal instead of a warning sign can help you lean into challenges rather than retreat from them.
Understanding why imposter syndrome happens is the first step in overcoming it. Here are some key reasons:
The way imposter syndrome manifests is often shaped by cultural background.
🌎 Western, Individualistic Cultures (U.S., UK, Australia) – The emphasis on personal success and meritocracy can make people feel like they need to prove themselves constantly.
🤝 Collectivist Cultures (Asia, Latin America, Africa) – Success is often seen as a shared effort, which can make people hesitate to claim personal achievements.
🎭 “Tall Poppy Syndrome” (New Zealand, Scandinavia, Australia) – In some cultures, standing out too much is discouraged, leading people to downplay their success.
Recognizing these influences can help us challenge ingrained beliefs and give ourselves permission to own our achievements.
✔ You chalk up your successes to luck, timing, or other external factors.
✔ You overwork to “prove” you belong.
✔ You avoid new opportunities for fear of failure.
✔ You think others overestimate your abilities.
✔ You constantly compare yourself to others.
If these sound familiar, don’t worry—there are ways to work through it.
Dr. Dan Siegel’s concept of the window of tolerance describes the ideal zone where we function best—engaged but not overwhelmed. If imposter feelings push you into anxiety, pause, ground yourself, and come back to center with deep breathing or a short walk.
When you hear, I don’t belong here, reframe it as: I’m in the process of growing into this role.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques suggest writing down negative thoughts and replacing them with evidence-based statements.
❌ I just got lucky.
✅ I worked hard to achieve this.
Document wins—big and small. This reinforces concrete evidence of your abilities.
Every successful person you admire has likely battled imposter syndrome. Talk to mentors or peers about their experiences.
As Sheryl Sandberg, former COO of Meta, once said:
“There are still days when I wake up feeling like a fraud, not sure I should be where I am.”
Even the most accomplished leaders have these moments. You’re in good company.
Confidence comes from action. The more you step into uncomfortable situations, the more normal they become.
📚 The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown – A deep dive into embracing vulnerability and self-worth.
📚 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck – Teaches how a growth mindset helps combat imposter syndrome.
📚 The Confidence Code by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman – Explores how confidence is built, not born.
🎙 The Mel Robbins Podcast – Talks about real-life confidence-building strategies.
If imposter syndrome is keeping you stuck—leading to anxiety, burnout, or avoiding opportunities—it might be time to work with a therapist or coach.
At Path to Growth Therapy, I help clients move beyond self-doubt and into confidence.
💡 Need Business & Leadership Coaching? I offer strategy sessions through Trabelsi Coaching & Consulting to help you step into your leadership role with clarity.
🛠 Want Short-Term, Focused Work? My therapy intensives help you rewire self-doubt quickly and create lasting change.
Imposter syndrome is a sign that you’re growing. Instead of fearing it, use it as motivation to keep pushing forward. You’re more capable than you realize. Your voice, your expertise, and your perspective matter.
So the next time you walk into a room feeling like you don’t belong, stand tall and remind yourself—you do.